As I watch my kids grow, I remember when I was their age and how I handled the situations they are currently facing. Badly. I handled life badly. I share with them my cautionary tales, and I intervene for them at moments when had I wished someone had intervened for me.
I have been accused of being too protective. I have been accused of being their buddy instead of their mother. I found the remarks hurtful, and I wondered if I was wrong.
Then I watched Ted Lasso. In the show, each of the characters has a backstory. One of the characters was going through a very painful and public divorce. A year and half after her divorce, she began to heal. Then watched her friend go through a divorce. She knew exactly what not to do for him. It was all the things she had done for herself.
Sometimes I think failing teaches the lessons I need to teach others. I also think love looks different from the outside looking in.
"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment under the Law?"
Jesus said to him, "'You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.' The second is like it: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' Everything in the Law and the Prophets depends on these two commandments."
Matt 22: 36-40
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